Did you ever think about what you would say to someone if they confided in you that they were pregnant, and were planning to have an abortion? I know that kind of conversation might sound rare, but it happens more often than you might think. So – just in case – here are some responses for you to consider. They’re presented in Focus on the Family’s article, How to Help a Friend Who Wants an Abortion.
First, show her that you care about her. Say something like “This must be so hard for you. I’m here for you no matter what.” We must not judge her. She’s likely feeling alone and in dire need of support. We should give her our attention, and not belittle or correct what she says.
Second, stay committed to the truth. You don’t have agree with her about abortion. If she asks you for your advice, you can acknowledge that this is a really important decision for her. Encourage her to take her time and gather as much truthful information as she can.before she makes her final decision.
Third, refer her to a local pregnancy center. Or better yet, go with her to one. That center will have free services to help her confirm her pregnancy. They can help her gather non-judgmental, truthful information about all her options so she can make an informed decision about her pregnancy. Staff members are trained and often experienced in how to help women and men who find themselves in these type of situations.
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” We must ask Jesus for help with our words. As He equips us to respond, these “I’m going to have an abortion” conversations can become special opportunities, directed toward truth, spoken in love. And that can be life-giving for everyone involved.